Why People Hold Back After Experiencing Abuse and How It Impacts Their Flow of Life
Abuse leaves deep scars - emotional, physical and often spiritual. The consequences are not only visible in fear, anger, guilt or shame, but they also shape how we show ourselves in the world, how we share our talents and how we attract relationships, money and love into our lives. Many people who have experienced abuse withdraw into themselves, keep themselves small and as a result not only experience further challenges but often also a repetition of old patterns.
The fear of being visible
For someone who has experienced abuse, visibility can be equated with danger. Perhaps showing needs, emotions or talents in the past has led to criticism, rejection or even punishment. This experience is often stored unconsciously, so that any form of "showing oneself" is later associated with fear. This fear can manifest itself in the following ways:
• Control and restraint: many try to strictly control everything in their lives to protect themselves from being hurt. However, this control also restricts the natural flow of creativity and intuition.
• False security: instead of showing themselves authentically, those affected build a facade that supposedly provides security. They play roles, remain invisible or appear unapproachable.
• The feeling of being unimportant: abuse undermines self-esteem. This creates the belief that one's own gifts and talents are worthless or that no one is interested in what one has to give.
The dynamic of "attraction"
Those who live in a state of lack - be it emotional, financial or energetic - often unconsciously send out signals that attract similar energies. This is not a sign of guilt, but an indication of inner wounds that still need healing. People who have experienced abuse can attract new perpetrators or toxic relationships into their lives out of their feeling of unworthiness or fear. This dynamic is based on old patterns:
• Unconscious expectations: the fear of being hurt creates protective mechanisms, which, paradoxically, can have the exact opposite effect. You attract partners, friends or colleagues who cross your boundaries again.
• Energetic blockages: holding yourself back often blocks not only your talents but also the flow of abundance, be it in the form of money, love or creative energy.
The connection between money, love and trauma
Money and love are both forms of energy that depend on our inner state. Those who hold back to protect themselves often block these energies in similar ways:
• Money flow: limited self-esteem can directly affect how someone perceives and attracts money. Feelings like "I'm not worth it" or "I have nothing to offer" can manifest as financial scarcity.
• Love flow: just like money, love flows when we open up and trust ourselves. However, trauma often creates fear of being hurt, which limits the ability to give and receive love.
Ways out of the vicious cycle: trauma healing and coaching
The key to transformation is to look at and heal the inner wounds. Trauma healing and coaching can help to accompany this process:
• Trauma healing: through targeted techniques such as self-encounters, body work or mindful feeling, old injuries can be gently resolved. This opens up space for a new feeling of security and self-love.
• Coaching: a good coach helps to recognize and question old beliefs and replace them with new, strengthening thoughts. At the same time, coaching offers the framework to release your own talents and gifts and to live with joy.
Final thoughts
Abuse can leave deep scars, but it is possible to heal these wounds and grow out of them. Showing yourself again, opening your heart and letting your talents flow freely is an act of self-empowerment. It is a way not only to restore the flow of money and love, but also to create a life of freedom, creativity and abundance. With the support of trauma healing and coaching, this path can be made easier and more sustainable.
P.S.: in the Secret Masterclass "Security within me", which kicked off today with an inner constellation, we will spend 5 evenings dealing with tips, experiences, tools and methods to experience more security within ourselves. You can attend live or buy the recordings. Personal exchange and live coaching is possible in the accompanying Telegram group until December 6th; the latter also takes place daily in the live calls. The week will probably end with a live handpan sound healing.
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